One of the major questions that is asked every day in the world of parenthood is should parents spank their kids, or is it enough just to put them in time out and talk to them.
One of my favorite shows to watch on TV right now is ‘T.I. and Tiny’s Family Hustle’ on VH1. If you have never seen the show you are missing out! The show follows the life of rapper Clifford ‘T.I.’ Harris and his wife Tameka as they raise their six children together and attempt to maintain their own business ventures.
A part of this week’s episode was about the couple’s 4-year-old son Major being disciplined for doing something that he has been told time and time again not to do.
Since the show began airing last year, T.I. has told all of his kids to stay out of the precious “white room” in his home which is decked out with fine white furniture and carpet. In the episode that aired Monday night on VH1, Major used an orange marker to draw all over one of the couches in the white room. Keep in mind, the kids aren’t even supposed to be in the room so needless to say when T.I. found out that Major had totally disobeyed all orders there was TROUBLE…..TROUBLE!
Instead of taking an approach that many parents take and spanking his son, T.I. decided to use a much more diplomatic approach and put him in time out and have a talk with him about what he did.
During my childhood this would have been the quickest way to get a spanking with an extension chord, shoe, belt, or any other object that my mother could find, but I guess times have changed. Granted, T.I. is a convicted felon and it probably would be in his best interest to spank a 4-year-old on camera whether it was justified or not. The fact of the matter is that spanking is frowned upon by many people in today’s society. People will look at you like you are crazy if you spank your kids in a public place. It’s almost like there is an unwritten rule that says parents are not able to spank their kids any more.
Even though I have never had to spank my daughter, I am not opposed to it. I’m not saying that she is a perfect angel, but her behavior has never warranted me actually having to spank her. I will admit that I can be a pushover when it comes to her. She’s a daddy’s girl and sometimes all she has to do is look at me with those big brown eyes and I forgive all of her transgressions instantly. I like to believe that we have the type of relationship that is based on honest communications. When she slips up and does or says something wrong I tell her about it and expect her to learn a lesson and never do it again. If she does it again, I will correct her again in a much more firm tone of voice.
Watching T.I. put his son in time out looked familiar to me because the fact of the matter is that the more of yourself that you see in your children the harder it is to punish them. There is no manual that tells us how to discipline our kids. All we can do is use sound judgement to make the best possible decision. I hope there was more to the story than what was shown on TV, but the important thing is that the decision was made to discipline the child the way he wanted to and not based on what society thought was appropriate.
Watch a clip from the ‘T.I. and Tiny’s Family Hustle” below Via VH1
How do you discipline your children? Do you believe that spanking is acceptable, or should we all be putting our children in time out?